Amanda took the time change fairly well, it took about 3 days for her to
get adjusted. We did have a problem getting her to sleep. At first she
wouldn't go to sleep without Ginger in the room, then she wouldn't sleep
without Ginger and me in the room. We finally knew we had a problem
when she refused to sleep without the dog in the room too. We decided
to let her cry. Now she usually goes to sleep with Ginger just standing
by the crib. Occasionally, when she won't go to sleep, we leave the room
and allow her to cry for a few minutes. After Ginger goes back in,
she usually settles very quickly.
Amanda does allow me to hold her now, we are best play buddies.
When I arrive home from work, she is so happy to see me, she does this
snoopy like dance (Laura Morrison, did you teach her that?). In noisy,
or other stressful times, she still prefers Mom. She still won't let me
put her down to sleep, but we are working on that. She is a very happy,
curious, and fearless child. She especially likes heights, kissing the
cat and dog, and kicking daddy during diaper changes.
We had Amanda evaluated by the local YMCA early childhood intervention
program for developmental delays. She was delayed in all areas, but
has been making rapid progress. Ginger and I attend classes with a speech
therapist once a week to learn how best to teach Amanda to talk.
We also have an occupational therapist working with us to help Amanda catch
up in gross and fine motor skills. In the two weeks from the initial evaluation
to the first session, Amanda made about 2 months worth of motor skills
2/9/97: Amanda started walking on her own last week She now can walk
across the living room, putting 16 steps together. She has also said her
first recognizable word, "UUUU p" when she wants up. The next challenge
is to get mom and dad to say the words the proper way rather than dragging
out the sounds. Her "UUUU p" is nearly an exact reproduction of our
slow - say it phonically and look at my mouth- rendition. Food is also
becoming less of an issue. Ignoring the orphanage director's advice,
we have let Amanda have all the food that she wants. A couple of
weeks ago she started to reject foods that she doesn't like. Now she even
leaves food that she loves (green beans!) on her plate when she is full.
3/15/98: Amanda is now walking well, trying to run, saying "HI!", "I love
you", and of course "UP!" Amanda is starting daycare for 2 days a week
when Ginger returns to work. The grandmothers will watch her the other
days. She is now a little cranky because she has started to cut some
molars. We traveled to Austin at the end of February with Amanda to have
a reunion with our travel group. It is amazing how much the children
have changed in such a short while. We introduced Amanda to the director
of our adoption agency, Snow Wu. Ginger sent an E Mail to our hotel in
Nanjing, the Dingshan Garden Hotel about the Rain Flower Pebbles that she
had wanted to buy. The asked us to send money and they would mail
them to her. They arrived this past week in a box covered with
Chinese stamps. Ginger loves her pebbles, I like the stamps.
July 29, 1999: Amanda is now enjoying being a big sister to Emma,
learning Chinese, and going to gymnastics lessons. She is developmentally on
target, or advanced in every area of the Denver testing. Almost 3 and going on
16, she demands her turn driving the car and helping daddy fix everything (whether
or not it needs fixed). She is in all respects a delightful young lady and you
can see more pictures of her here.